When we were dating, I remember one night PE asked me "How do you know when you're in love?" PE and I were each others first boyfriend/girlfriend, so we had never "been in love" before. We talked about it that night, and we both expressed how we felt like a large part of it was a decision. That you had to choose to be in love.
Love is a choice. I know that now. We choose who we love, and we choose the people that we don't love. Love does not just happen.
I believe man was created to act for himself, and not to be acted on by others. Circumstances don't make the man, rather the man makes his circumstances.
To believe that love just happens or just dies is to believe we are puppets who have no control over the relationships in our lives. I do not believe that.
I understand that there is an actual physical/biochemical process that we call attraction that can occur. But to base love solely on attraction is absurd. Physical attraction is where a signal molecule acts on us to trigger a physical response. And the signal pathways in our cells can become desensitized to the signal molecule over time, which means that this type of attraction can disappear.
Do we let tiny molecules that we cannot even see dictate who we love? And do we let those molecules decide when we stop loving someone? Absurd, right?
I chose to love my husband, and he chose to love me. I choose to develop that love by serving him, by supporting him, and by listening to him. And if I ever speak ill of my husband, that is me choosing to not love him.
Love is a choice. How are we making that choice?
I love this. And I think realizing this is what helps couples stay couples and remain in love.
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